The biggest obstacle to healing is our reluctance to take responsibility for our own emotional dramas. Every situation that is bothering us has roots in our metaphysical karma and is here to help us heal. By looking deep into our feelings we can learn to understand what we are doing to ourselves. Healing must finally come from within, we alone can make the final shift.
There is no doubt that others can help us along the journey, but if we rely completely on others to heal our lives we will never truely learn the lesson and next life time we will face it again to see if we have really learned it.